Change and Body Transformation - Day #6

6. No “wondering & worrying” questions.

Ah, another tough lesson to learn. Change is an uncomfortable process, always. You leave what you know (your habits, your lifestyle, your environment) and by trying something new, you take a tentative step into an unknown and uncertain place.

So the first thing clients do is try to resolve that tension, try to make it “certain” again, by asking all kinds of frenzied questions and working themselves into a panic:

• “What about this supplement, or that?”
• “What do you think about this theory / guru / article I read / study that was published?”
• “What about when (unforeseeable future event) happens — what do I do then?”
• “What about (rare, irrelevant and highly unlikely situation) — what do I do in that case?”
• etc., etc.

I call these “wondering & worrying” questions, and I encourage you to refrain from asking them because although they’re well-intentioned, they don’t reduce anxiety at all. In fact, they do the exact opposite, whipping people into a froth of nail-biting and distracting them from the only two questions that matter:

1. What should I do today?
2. How do I do that?

The first question is asking for the next step, the “right now.” That’s the only thing you should concern yourself with, because it’s the only thing you can control. The second question is asking for clarification and instruction, so that you can do what you need to do properly.

Those are the only two kinds of questions that lead to calm, focused action. So next time you find yourself asking a question about fitness, take a second and think, “Am I focused on what to do right now? Or is this just wondering and worrying?”